Before we had children’s, I was working full time. I remember having a conversation with Stu and agreeing that if I were to give up work that I’d take on most of the housework. I’d do the shopping and keep on top of the general running of the house. That seemed only fair.
Fast forward and we have both realised that being the stay at home parent is not the job we envisaged. I think it’s important to dispel the myth that all SAHPs do is sit around drinking tea. I wish. In fact, since my girls stopped napping, I now have less time to myself than ever before.
Team twindividuals works best when both mummy and daddy value the roles they play. For now that means, Stu bringing in the bread. He is financially supporting us and actually bringing home the bread with the shopping. My part entails caring for and nurturing our girls.
Although that sounds pretty airy fairy, by staying at home, I have more time to enrich their day to day lives with puzzles and crafts, stories and den making. Toddler groups, gym sessions and trips to the farm are so valuable and I’m more than happy to leave piles of washing and unmade beds to give them these experiences.
I’m not the cleaner
While I was pregnant, we got a cleaner and when we were considering me giving up work, that was a luxury we thought would go. In fact there were many more luxuries I was prepared to sacrifice before this one. Expensive clothes, a new phone and lots of take aways are much less important to me than the time I get back from having a domestic goddess.
I read another mummy say that when you have children you either need to lower your standards or get help. My standards are already pretty low but the few hours a fortnight mean I know all the basics are covered. I just need to keep on top of the day to day mess.
Acknowledging that it’s not my job alone to keep the house spick and span also means that if on the odd occasion our girls are playing nicely that I can actually have 10 minutes of me time. Whether that is working on my blog, scrolling Facebook or browsing eBay. I don’t think I should feel guilty that I’m not manically scrubbing toilets or vacuuming the lounge.
27 thoughts on “I’m a SAHM not a housewife!”
Being a SAHM is incredibly hard work, I don’t know how I’d mange if Hubs didn’t muck in! Thanks so much for sharing with #Blogstravaganza xx
Teamwork makes the dream work 😝
I love that!!
Such a great piece, I could of written this myself! Couldn’t agre more with you! X
Thanks…I admit I felt very differently before my girls came along
There’s so much to do. The housekeeping on top of managing the kids seems to happen around the edges and everyone needs to muck in. I’m hoping to teach my little one how to clean as soon as possible! #PostsFromTheHeart
Absolutely…for now it takes longer to tidy with them but I’m hoping it will pay off soon
We can only do what we can and as long as we aren’t living in filth I guess we are doing ok.
We are very much a team and always get everything done together so important when you have little ones fab read Thanks for linking to the #THAT FRIDAY LINKY come back next week please
Teamwork makes the dream work 😝
We are very much into sharing the chores here too. Hubby loves to cook while I don’t. Since the nesting instinct took over I’m trying desperately to keep the place tidy. However, the munchkins keep following me and messing it up! #BloggerClubUK
Tell me about it…as soon as you tidy one area they are busy making another messy!
I totally agree that whether you’re a working mummy or a SAHM you’re still a team. I’m currently working but due to go on maternity leave in a couple of weeks and I do think chores should be shared, OK I’ll be doing the bulk of it when I can but like you said it’s still a job and I do expect my other half to help. Hopefully like you we find a balance that works for us #BloggerClubUK
It’s easy to think that because you’re home, you’ll have lots of time but for me it just wasn’t like that. You’ll find your own way
Nice tips! I have been seeking for things like that for a while currently. Thanks!