Mummy Friends: Why I love you all

I’ve never really had many friends. My sister has friends she’s known since since she was ten. They tell each other everything and that’s something I’ve always been envious of. I’m not sure why I’ve struggled to make close friendships in the past. Generally, I’m pretty outgoing, chatty and friendly if not a tad opinionated but I guess it’s that special connection or bond that I always missed. Enter the Mummy friends.

This week, I found myself at a toddler group surrounded by lovely mums. Everywhere I turned there was a smiling face of a woman I’d grown to love. I felt like the popular kid. These fab ladies all wanted to talk to me. On the drive home, it got me thinking about all my amazing mummy friends and why I love them all.

My Mummy Friends

Friends who have been on a tough road to become a mum. A few who’ve been through IVF like me and one who has been through far worse. It so valuable to be able to talk to someone who’s been on a similar path.

Breastfeeding mums who motivated me, supported me and just got me when I needed it most. Breastfeeding twins is no joke and so to have that shared experience is something special.

The experienced mum, with older kids, a laid back attitude and tips and tricks on everything. She’s inspiring and makes me laugh so a winning combination.

Teacher mums who work at a million miles an hour to be the best in both worlds. I couldn’t hack it but these mums are doing something amazing. They know me as a teacher too so more than just a mum. Without them, I might forget why I gave it up.

Uni mums who’ve become closer since babies have appeared. Sharing the highs and lows of motherhood has brought us together even when we are separated by miles.

SAHMs who often have a bit more time for play dates and catch ups. Sharing budgeting and life balancing ideas, it’s great to hear about all the day to day stuff from another perspective.

The new and expectant mums who make me feel more knowledgable than I actually am.

Sharing the journey

Without a doubt, I’ve got more friends now than I’ve ever had. I’m not suggesting having a baby is the answer if you don’t have friends. I’ve read lots of articles about how lonely some mums find motherhood. Personally, I’ve actively gone looking for friendship and now feel so luckily to be able to think about all the women I now have in my life.

Thank you to all of you – I love you all.

Has motherhood helped or hindered you in making friends?

Over on ‘Then there were three’, read Jenna’s open letter to her mum friends here.


25 thoughts on “Mummy Friends: Why I love you all

  1. I have friends from before having children, and some I’ve made since I’ve had children. I think going through life changes and being vulnerable is a great test of any relationship and I am extremely lucky to have amazing friends around me too 🙂 #Blogstravaganza

    1. The shared experience of a huge life transition like this is ideal for creating a quick bond.

    1. Maybe because everyone has heard the minute details of each other’s birth story that somehow the flood gates are open.

  2. Mummy friends are the best, those early days are so much better when you have someone to call at 3am! Thanks so much for sharing with #Blogstravaganza xx

    1. I’m not sure about a 3am call – you clearly have tested the friendship limits lol

  3. Having a baby can be lonely, but it can also be great for meeting new people. I went to lots of baby groups with my daughter and made some lovely friends. But when I had my son (before my daughter), I didn’t go to any and felt so alone. I would say get out there as you don’t know what great friends you are missing.

    1. I can be daunting to start with but so lovely to find people in the same boat and go8ng through the same things

  4. Hey Amanda lovely post. I definitely couldn’t do this crazy job without all my mummy friends. We’ve just moved half way round the world so it was the saddest thing to say goodbye to all my mummy friends. i’m gradually making new ones though. You have a lovely blog well done x #BloggerClubUK

    1. I’m sure you’ll make list of new friends. Jersey is so friendly. That’s where my husbands family live so we visit at least once a year.

  5. This is fab! I’ve become closer to my previous friends and made some allies that I know will be part of my life for years to come. Great post! #AnythingGoes

    1. There’s something special about sharing parenting. It’s such a crazy stage

  6. You and your sister are gorgeous! Great gene pool without question. 😉

    Being a Mom has most definitely strengthened bonds with existing mommy friends. I’ve also made several close girlfriends directly as a result of being a mom. A win/win for sure.


    1. She isn’t my sister but thanks – a old friends who’s now a mummy too.

  7. It’s lovely that you’ve found a group of friends who you love. Friendship is so important
    Thanks for linking up to #AnythingGoes 🙂

    1. Definitely – most are just individuals but I know I’m lucky to have them all.

  8. Being a mum has made it hard to keep up with friendships I had before, but some of them have become stronger and more so with the ones who are parents themselves… but not all the time. I have a mummy friend who’s actually become less of a friend since Ben!
    Thank you for sharing this with us at #TriumphantTales. I hope to see you back next week!

    1. Parenting is such a personal journey and you can find out things about people you never realised.

  9. Sounds lovely. Unfortunately, I had a bad experience of being slagged off by other Mums so I now have my guard up but I am hoping to meet new ones once the second comes along. #triumphanttales

    1. That’s awful. Everyone has their own parenting style but that doesn’t give anyone the right to bad mouth you. Hopefully you’ll find genuine buddies second time around.

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