I’ve never really had many friends. My sister has friends she’s known since since she was ten. They tell each other everything and that’s something I’ve always been envious of. I’m not sure why I’ve struggled to make close friendships in the past. Generally, I’m pretty outgoing, chatty and friendly if not a tad opinionated but I guess it’s that special connection or bond that I always missed. Enter the Mummy friends.
This week, I found myself at a toddler group surrounded by lovely mums. Everywhere I turned there was a smiling face of a woman I’d grown to love. I felt like the popular kid. These fab ladies all wanted to talk to me. On the drive home, it got me thinking about all my amazing mummy friends and why I love them all.
My Mummy Friends
Friends who have been on a tough road to become a mum. A few who’ve been through IVF like me and one who has been through far worse. It so valuable to be able to talk to someone who’s been on a similar path.
Breastfeeding mums who motivated me, supported me and just got me when I needed it most. Breastfeeding twins is no joke and so to have that shared experience is something special.
The experienced mum, with older kids, a laid back attitude and tips and tricks on everything. She’s inspiring and makes me laugh so a winning combination.
Teacher mums who work at a million miles an hour to be the best in both worlds. I couldn’t hack it but these mums are doing something amazing. They know me as a teacher too so more than just a mum. Without them, I might forget why I gave it up.
Uni mums who’ve become closer since babies have appeared. Sharing the highs and lows of motherhood has brought us together even when we are separated by miles.
The new and expectant mums who make me feel more knowledgable than I actually am.
Sharing the journey
Without a doubt, I’ve got more friends now than I’ve ever had. I’m not suggesting having a baby is the answer if you don’t have friends. I’ve read lots of articles about how lonely some mums find motherhood. Personally, I’ve actively gone looking for friendship and now feel so luckily to be able to think about all the women I now have in my life.
Thank you to all of you – I love you all.
Has motherhood helped or hindered you in making friends?
Over on ‘Then there were three’, read Jenna’s open letter to her mum friends here.