Since becoming a stay at home mum, I’ve definitely been motivated to do more with my girls. Whether that’s joining groups, taking trips, baking or crafts, I like to keep us busy. Barely a day goes by without one of these and on the whole, I love it. However recently, I’ve been realising that I’m making my life much harder than it needs to be. Simplifying motherhood is now my new mission.
With all the above mentioned activities, there is a certain amount of prep required. Sometimes, it’s just checking where you need to be and for what time. Other times, I find myself spending a disproportionate amount of time organising and planning only to find my girls lose interest within minutes.
Take today for example. I’d noticed we had a huge elderberry tree growing in our garden and so thought it’d be fun to make elderberry cordial. As always I wanted to involve the girls as much as possible. We sat down and watched a tutorial. They will seriously watch anything because I’m such a stickler with screen time. After, we went and collected the berries.
I’d envisaged them doing this but of course the bundles needed to be snipped off. Regardless, they enjoyed holding the bowl. Next came the less than fun task of removing all the berries from the stems. Again they wanted to help and I wanted them to help too but it was fiddly and the berries stained. From this point, there was nothing else they could help with.,
On and off, I spent the best part of the afternoon doing this only to discover the taste was at best mediocre. I’ve made enough to last the winter so I’m hoping the immunity boosting claims are true. Why did I even bother? Did Jess and Emily even benefit?
I never learn
This week we also attended a trial toddler yoga session. It was fantastic. Well I thought so. Jess and Emily were less than impressed. Emily barely moved from my lap and Jess just didn’t have it in her to sit, listen and follow instructions. It probably didn’t help that we’d had to rush to get ready and then spent 35 minutes on the motorway.
On the way home, I beat myself up over their behaviour. How come all the other children had participated? Why can’t they follow instructions? Is spending all day, every day with me holding them back? To top it off Emily, whinged the entire way. By the time we pulled into our driveway, I was in a foul mood.
Before we even got out if the car, I decided we should go to our local community centre stay and play group. They serve decent coffee and I just needed the girls to play so I could have 5 minutes. I’m so glad we did. It was such a chilled session, I chatted to some lovely mum’s and the girls played beautifully.
Next week, we will definitely be going back. This group was a bit of a wake up call for me and reminded me that simplifying motherhood is ok. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not giving up the trips or crafts or baking but maybe I just need to realise who I’m doing it for and relax a bit more.